I claim that one of the biggest, if not the biggest, thing preventing us from achieving the life we want or creating the life we really want to experience, are fears.
We fear taking those steps or making those changes that, if we took them, would really take us towards those things that we desire and that would make our experience of life much better.
Fears Are Limiting Beliefs
Most of the fears are really learned beliefs. It is said that when we are born, we have only two fears; the fear of falling from high places and the fear of loud noises. All the other fears are learned.
And fears are really beliefs. They are beliefs that something bad might happen if we make a change or if we decide to do something that is even slightly unfamiliar to us or anything like that.
Fears Are Perceptions
Fears really prevent us taking those steps, making those changes. Fears are perceived threats or dangers. They are our perceptions and thoughts that I talk about in so many of my blog posts.
So we perceive something to be dangerous. We perceive something to be fearful. And the funny thing is that we don’t know that. These perceptions have nothing to do with the truth. They are our evaluations and estimates that something might be fearful or dangerous.
A lot of the fears also have to do with attachments, meaning that, we are afraid of losing something we are attached to in some way.
We might think that if I went this direction, I might lose something that I have considered to be valuable for myself.
If I go and ask that woman or that guy out and they say no, I fear I might make a fool out of myself.
Those are all perceptions. We don’t know that. Just think about this. If instead of the fear, you would still do those things, what might you be able to achieve if there was no fear behind your inactivity?
Replace Fears with Love
Some say that fear is the absence of courage. I would rather say that fear is the absence of love. Okay, there’s a big difference. Courage is something that we feel we have to do, we go through despite the fear.
Love is something that we want to do. So if instead of being fearful, we would have the courage to do something, is it really something that we want to do?
But if you replace that courage with love, it’s a different thing than courage. My point is that if we paid attention more to what we love to do, what we love to have, what we love to experience and so on, and let that love kind of feeling take over the fear, what kind of experiences would we have?
By that, I mean that instead of fear, if you felt more love, how much different would your experience of life be?
Words of Wisdom
Again, in my book Words of Wisdom, there is this chapter that is called Beliefs as Fears. I already touched the subject of beliefs in my other blog post, so this is more about the fears.
Let me again give you a quote from the book. Also in this chapter, there are a lot of quotes from wise people, and this time I’d like to give you one from Bill Harris:
On the other side of the fear is usually the life of freedom, the life of your dreams.
Like I said earlier, if you pay more attention to what you love to do, or what you love in life in general, instead of paying attention to what bad might happen, how would that change the experience?
