Here’s another claim that I would like to make: The number one reason why we are not really happy and why we don’t grow the way we want to, is that we are not able to let go of the things that don’t serve us.
Letting go can be difficult. I hate to make that kind of statement because I would like, instead of stating that something is very difficult or hard, to say that things are easy.
I do believe, however, that things are only as difficult and hard as we make them. It is our thinking that makes things so hard. Letting go can be difficult because our ego wants to hold on to what the ego thinks it is right about.
Our Desire to Be Right Is an Obstacle to Growth
The thing is that we really like what is familiar to us because that makes our life seem easier.
I’ve asked a lot of people, “How many of you enjoy being right?” Everybody raises their hands.
And when I ask, “How many really enjoy being wrong?” I don’t see hands rising. It demonstrates that we really don’t want to be wrong.
The point is that for us to grow happier in our lives, we need to let go of those things that don’t serve us.
That means that we have to admit to ourselves that we have been wrong about something. And when we have been wrong about something, we need to let that thing go and let new information flow in.
Let Go of Fears
We also need to let go of fears. I have another blog post about fears where I claim that fears are one of the biggest reasons that are stopping us from growing as well.
We fear stepping into something unknown. By letting go of the fear, it releases us to let new information, new knowledge and new experiences to enter our minds.
Letting go of those feelings of fear, or whatever is holding you back, is essential if you want to grow happier in your life.
There’s a book by Dr. David Hawkins titled Letting Go that I really want to recommend. It is a brilliant book on the skill of letting go. It’s a beautiful book and I highly recommend that you read it.
Words of Wisdom
My book Words of Wisdom has this chapter eleven, that is about growth and change. This chapter is also about letting go and it has a subtitled section in the chapter about letting go and here I would like to give you a rather long quote from the book from Anita Moorjani:
There’s another book that I highly recommend from Anita Moorjani: Dying to Be Me.
Letting Go Is a Skill that Can Be Learned
Letting go is a skill that our ego really resists. It’s a skill we are afraid of, really. Because by letting go of the old, we open ourselves for new things to enter our lives.
That is always a step into an unknown and something that part of our unconscious mind resists. Learning the skill of letting go of things that don’t serve you is highly important for you to grow and be happier in your life.
